On What I did not Expect

I don’t know quite what I expected.   For the longest time (and I know how lucky we are that for us, that only meant months, not years), we’d been planning for this pregnancy, working as hard as we could emotionally to conceive our miracle, fighting the despair that threatened to overwhelm anything positive about … Continue reading On What I did not Expect

Myth Busting the Baby Dreaming

  Somewhere along the way, it dawned on me that there will be absolutely no zen-ning this out.  All of the wisdom, all of the stuff I’m reading, all the message boards I’m on, all the conversations with our doctors – I mean every thing – tells us to just relax.  Rome wasn’t built in … Continue reading Myth Busting the Baby Dreaming

Pre-baby Body

 “A woman watches her body uneasily, as though it were an unreliable ally in the battle for love” Leonard Cohen   I’ve been trying to figure out when to write about this. After all the treatments and poking and prodding is done, and the losses have been endured, and we have what we want – … Continue reading Pre-baby Body

The Fear

By Rumbi http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E0CazRHB0so A feminist shit-storm of epic proportions (is there any other kind?) ensued two weeks ago when Lily Allen released her clever, satirical video for her track Hard out Here. The video features, amongst other things, a medley of women, many black, dancing in the fashion we've become accustomed to in this age … Continue reading The Fear

On being a ‘chubster’ – meditations on beauty and bodies

by Shehnaz   A few weeks ago I bumped into an acquaintance of my mum’s at the mall.  She knew of my current illness and inquired after my health, she then gave me a once over and asked, “Are they not giving you anything for the swelling?” That evening we had dinner with (my husband) family and my … Continue reading On being a ‘chubster’ – meditations on beauty and bodies