The Risky Business of Sexual Violence

When I was in my first year of university, I went, as instructed, to one of my lecturers' offices to pick up my graded final essay. It was study week and the campus was quiet. I needed the paper to study for the upcoming exam, and had gone to campus specifically to fetch it. The … Continue reading The Risky Business of Sexual Violence

Of Myths and Men: masculinity and the politics of the personal

A few months ago, I found myself between a philosophical rock and hard place. The cause of my malaise? A stupid Father's Day-themed diaper ad. The premise of the advert is pretty silly (and you're welcome to view the offending ad in all its glory above), but the message it carries is that dads are … Continue reading Of Myths and Men: masculinity and the politics of the personal

14 Million Problems and Mani is Only One

Or is that 800,000 problems? That's more or less the amount of money that infamous Walter Sisulu University student, Sibongile Mani, spent of the millions that were mistakenly deposited into her account by some hapless financial firm entrusted with the management of National Student Financial Aid Scheme (NSFAS) funds on behalf of her school. Much … Continue reading 14 Million Problems and Mani is Only One

The Revolution will not be Likeable*

*Apologies and thanks to Gil Scott-Heron One of my favorite anecdotes from the iconic Tina Fey's Bossypants concerns the equally iconic Amy Poehler. Poehler is in the Saturday Night Live writers' room in the middle of a bit. Naturally (this is SNL after all), the bit is gross and graphic: Amy was in the middle of some … Continue reading The Revolution will not be Likeable*

Things I Want to Tell My Son in this age when #MenAreTrash

Know that you are of woman born. You come from a long line of incredible, ferocious, extraordinary women. You carry all of their legacies and stories with you wherever you go. Honour that in every encounter with women throughout your life. The world will tell you it is okay to forget that you are of women; … Continue reading Things I Want to Tell My Son in this age when #MenAreTrash

All I Want for Mother’s Day

About a year ago, a video on womanhood was doing the rounds on social media. It features a series of older women talking about what they feel younger women should and could do differently in today's fast-paced world.  The video was produced by a spa called Sanctuary, as part of their campaign to convince women … Continue reading All I Want for Mother’s Day

Nolite te bastardes carborondurum: A Maternal Reading of The Handmaid’s Tale

In anticipation of the forthcoming Hulu dramatization, I reread Margaret Atwood's iconic dystopian, feminist text, The Handmaid's Tale.  Well, only sort of. I have a lot less time and a lot more toddler in my life than I did when I first read the book twelve years ago.  This time, I listened to the unabridged audiobook. … Continue reading Nolite te bastardes carborondurum: A Maternal Reading of The Handmaid’s Tale

Local Government Elections

    I have been meaning for sometime to write about my brief flirtation with party politics, when I stood as a ward Councilor this past election. In summary it was an interesting experience. Bland way of putting it I am sure, but really the speed at which things happen, Wade Van Niekerk setting a … Continue reading Local Government Elections

On What I did not Expect

I don’t know quite what I expected.   For the longest time (and I know how lucky we are that for us, that only meant months, not years), we’d been planning for this pregnancy, working as hard as we could emotionally to conceive our miracle, fighting the despair that threatened to overwhelm anything positive about … Continue reading On What I did not Expect

The ‘I’ Word

There’s a word I’ve been religiously avoiding using in all my conversations, and writing about this experience, and the word is this: infertility.   I avoid it partly because our doctor is yet to use it to refer to either of us (medically, officially, you are only allowed to assign it after a couple have … Continue reading The ‘I’ Word