The Revolution will not be Likeable*

*Apologies and thanks to Gil Scott-Heron One of my favorite anecdotes from the iconic Tina Fey's Bossypants concerns the equally iconic Amy Poehler. Poehler is in the Saturday Night Live writers' room in the middle of a bit. Naturally (this is SNL after all), the bit is gross and graphic: Amy was in the middle of some … Continue reading The Revolution will not be Likeable*

Things I Want to Tell My Son in this age when #MenAreTrash

Know that you are of woman born. You come from a long line of incredible, ferocious, extraordinary women. You carry all of their legacies and stories with you wherever you go. Honour that in every encounter with women throughout your life. The world will tell you it is okay to forget that you are of women; … Continue reading Things I Want to Tell My Son in this age when #MenAreTrash

All I Want for Mother’s Day

About a year ago, a video on womanhood was doing the rounds on social media. It features a series of older women talking about what they feel younger women should and could do differently in today's fast-paced world.  The video was produced by a spa called Sanctuary, as part of their campaign to convince women … Continue reading All I Want for Mother’s Day

Nolite te bastardes carborondurum: A Maternal Reading of The Handmaid’s Tale

In anticipation of the forthcoming Hulu dramatization, I reread Margaret Atwood's iconic dystopian, feminist text, The Handmaid's Tale.  Well, only sort of. I have a lot less time and a lot more toddler in my life than I did when I first read the book twelve years ago.  This time, I listened to the unabridged audiobook. … Continue reading Nolite te bastardes carborondurum: A Maternal Reading of The Handmaid’s Tale

Local Government Elections

    I have been meaning for sometime to write about my brief flirtation with party politics, when I stood as a ward Councilor this past election. In summary it was an interesting experience. Bland way of putting it I am sure, but really the speed at which things happen, Wade Van Niekerk setting a … Continue reading Local Government Elections

On What I did not Expect

I don’t know quite what I expected.   For the longest time (and I know how lucky we are that for us, that only meant months, not years), we’d been planning for this pregnancy, working as hard as we could emotionally to conceive our miracle, fighting the despair that threatened to overwhelm anything positive about … Continue reading On What I did not Expect

The ‘I’ Word

There’s a word I’ve been religiously avoiding using in all my conversations, and writing about this experience, and the word is this: infertility.   I avoid it partly because our doctor is yet to use it to refer to either of us (medically, officially, you are only allowed to assign it after a couple have … Continue reading The ‘I’ Word

The Fear

By Rumbi http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E0CazRHB0so A feminist shit-storm of epic proportions (is there any other kind?) ensued two weeks ago when Lily Allen released her clever, satirical video for her track Hard out Here. The video features, amongst other things, a medley of women, many black, dancing in the fashion we've become accustomed to in this age … Continue reading The Fear

Steve Biko on Allies: Reflections on Masculinity Work

Two weeks ago, I attended an engaging discussion on gender-based violence and what is involved in the work of stopping it. At this event, one of the panelists raised the issue of masculinity work as a crucial part of this. I was intrigued: whilst this is not my first time at the masculinity rodeo, per … Continue reading Steve Biko on Allies: Reflections on Masculinity Work

Losing my Religion: Stopping Gender-based Violence

  Feminism is not exactly like a religion to me, but if we're talking about religion as the framework through which you understand life and make meaning of it, then it's pretty close. And whilst I am in conversation with my 'religion', like all people who hold fast to our frameworks, there are a few … Continue reading Losing my Religion: Stopping Gender-based Violence